How many sermons have you heard about sex? Bible study lessons? Sunday School lessons? Discussions with Godly people? I heard one sermon on sex when I was 26. When my pastor preached that sermon – the “good people” in the church was scandalized. They were so bent out of shape that they sought to run off the pastor. I don’t think there has been enough about sex from the pulpit. There is plenty of it on TV. There was plenty of pornography in the church parking lot after services that was being looked at when I was a teenager. Because so many congregations and pastors have cowered to the whims of the religious legalists and self-righteous prudes – we now have a generation who are in a sexual identity crisis and our cities are filled with strip clubs and prostitution. The salt hasn’t been being salty and the light hasn’t been shining in the darkness. The church has failed a generation in teaching about sex and God’s design for it.
I got an email devotional today from Love Worth Finding, the late Adrian Rogers’ ministry. Adrian Rogers was talking about Good Sex and Bad Sex way before our current generation. He said this in his devotional.
“Premarital sex always endangers future marital happiness. It follows as night follows day. Surveys have shown that those who were sexually pure when they went to the marriage altar have the greatest opportunity to have a happy marriage. You can understand why. Suppose a man says to a woman “I love you so much; I just can’t wait.” He talks her into giving in to his desires. Now think about a man who loves and respects a woman by keeping her pure. Do you see the trust that that builds? God has a wonderful plan for you. Sex is so bad outside marriage because it’s so good inside marriage.”
You have to listen to this message. I listened to an outstanding message on sex by Mark Driscoll of Mars Hill church, entitled Bad Sex, Good Sex. He got kinda edgy here and there but for the most part it was some of the best and funniest message on sex. It fits today’s culture and speaks to our society today. Check out the message for yourself.
I took a group trough a series on the Song of Solomon: A study of Love, Sex, Marriage, and
Romance by Tommy Nelson and it caused scandal among all of the “well, I’ve never” crowd. It is an amazing study on the Bible book the “Song of Solomon.” Single Jewish men were not allowed to read the Song of Solomon until they were 30. Nelson says that God gave us something so wonderful as sex and so dangerous if used in the wrong manner that He wouldn’t have given it to us without some sort of instructions. It would be like giving someone a hand grenade who has never seen one and saying here figure out how this works on your own. There is a companion book entitle The Book of Romance: What Solomon says About Love, Sex, and Intimacy and it is worth checking out on your own.
